What Love Actually Looks Like in Families

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Monthly Theme: Love in All Its Forms

It's February, which means we're surrounded by hearts, flowers, and reminders about love. And honestly? In a world that feels increasingly chaotic and overwhelming, I think focusing on love - real, authentic love in our family lives - is exactly what we need right now.

There's so much we can't control these days. We can't control what's happening in the news, what's going on at school, or how fast everything seems to be changing. But here's what we can control: how we show up for our families. The shared meals around the table, even when everyone's schedules are packed. The unconditional love and positive regard we offer our kids, especially when they're struggling. The quality time we prioritize together, even in small doses. The ways we demonstrate love through our actions, not just our words.

These things matter more than ever right now. They're the anchor.

But let's be real - family love doesn't always look like the curated, picture-perfect moments we see everywhere. (You know the ones I'm talking about.) Real family love is messier and more ordinary than that. It's showing up when your kid has a meltdown in the grocery store. It's listening to the same story about their friend group drama for the third time this week. It's apologizing when you snap at them because you're exhausted.

Love in families isn't always warm and fuzzy. Sometimes it's holding a boundary even when your child is furious with you. Sometimes it's enforcing a consequence that makes everyone uncomfortable - because that's what they need. Sometimes it's putting supervision and structure around them when they've shown they're not ready for complete freedom. Sometimes it's taking something off their overpacked schedule because it no longer serves them, even if they protest. Sometimes it's letting go of something as a family that just isn't working anymore - the activity, the tradition, the expectation - because clinging to it is creating more stress than joy.

Sometimes love is sitting quietly next to your teenager who doesn't want to talk but needs you nearby. Sometimes it's letting them fail at something so they can learn. The small, unglamorous moments of showing up - that's where the real connection gets built.

Think about what your kids will remember. It probably won't be the elaborate Valentine's Day celebration. It'll be the time you dropped everything to help them with a project, or when you admitted you were wrong, or the inside jokes that only your family gets. Love isn't performed for an audience - it's lived in the everyday.

Ask Yourself:

What does love look like in my family when no one's watching?
Am I measuring my parenting against an idealized version or against my own values?
What small, ordinary moments of connection am I overlooking because they don't feel "special" enough?
In what ways might my children want to be shown love that I'm forgetting or not recognizing?
How do I show my kids love in ways that might not look like the conventional version - but matter just as much?
What's one thing I could let go of this week to make more room for actual connection?